Sometimes you just need to see reality for what it is – reality. Fighting reality is exhausting and uses up resources that you could’ve used for figuring out how to move forward. Sometimes life grabs you by the collar and drags you back into the past tense. You can fight being dragged back, you can refuse to accept how far you’ve been dragged back or you can accept that you’ve dragged back by the collar and start walking. I am what I am. I’m not who I am not. It is what it is and it’s not what it’s not.https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/pieces-mind/201207/radical-acceptance