It’s really difficult to deal with unmet childhood needs. Having the courage to dig through painful memories until you unnerve the ones which cover open wounds is a process that requires time, patience and commitment. It literally involves us looking for the things we are most afraid of and admitting to that thing how much you fear it. Only once you’ve admitted how much you wanted something you never got, can you honestly mourn it’s loss. See you don’t lose something you never got until you give up on the hope of ever getting it. It is a daunting process that hurts a lot, but the price to pay for not having the courage to face your demons is even higher still. When we refuse to let go of an unmet need, we are it’s slave. Subconsciously we are a slave and we will do whatever inappropriate behavior our unmet need suggests in order to attempt to meet it, but despite years of abuse and cycles of inexplicable depression and anxiety it will never be met. We will remain chained until we choose to confront and grief.
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I've got borderline personality disorder. I'm divorced. I'm in my early thirties. I'm really confused. I'm in a relationship. I'm an entrepreneur. I'm honest. I like to think I'm a good person. I'm definitely an empathic person. I'm a caring person. I try to make the world a better place. I experience extreme highs and extreme lows. I have difficulty processing emotions. I have difficulty maintaining relationships. I've got an extreme fear of abandonment. I'm still learning how to be a better me. I have low self-esteem. You'll have to look very far to find a more loving person than me. I love deeply and fiercely. I love dogs. I love dancing, writing, poetry. Occasionally my posts include poetry. Most of the time it's just me talking to you. It helps me process things. It helps me remember things. It helps me create a sort of constant reminder of who I am. I'm grateful to those of you who read my posts and leave a helpful comment. I try to include helpful links to resources and stuff, when I can. This platform means the world to me. I've met some really wise, amazing and supportive people. Thank you for giving me a space where I can literally just be me - no holds barred. View all posts by arielhopewhispers